From a female LIB reader
I'm in a big mess, and I don't know how to get out of this...here is my
story. About Seven years ago, when I was still in the University, I did
something very stupid and childish and I paid dearly for it, and right
now its looks like the ghost of the past has come back to haunt me.
I
was in my 2nd year in school when I met Tosin (not real name) she was my
Roomie that year and we became quite close. She was dating this cool
guy who bought her so many things and took her to the coolest parties,
despite our (the girls in the hostel room) plea to meet her boo, she
refused, saying girls are not to be trusted. After about seven months of
dating him, she entered the room this particular day
crying...continue...
...telling us
how she caught the guy with another girl. She cried for days, she was
devastated. Then she came up with this ridiculous idea of setting the
guy up and treating his f**k up. I was picked to be the bait, because I
was the innocent and quiet one. I collected the guy's phone number and
he fell for the sweet voice. That was how Jide and I started our
relationship but it was a Revengetionship on my part. The deal was to
make him
fall for me and then I dump him. Jide was sweet to me, but I never
allowed him to come see me in school, and once he found out that I was a
virgin, oh he treated me like I was the rarest of all gems. After about
four months of this charade, He found out the connection between Tosin
and I, and to say he was angry is an understatement. He called me names
and we
went our separate ways. He was hurt and this was good news for Tosin.
Six months later, I met this wonderful guy, Frank. He was so smooth and
jovial, he charmed me and we started dating. After about three months,
on this particular day, I got a call from Frank, he told me he was not
feeling fine that I should quickly come over. Like every young lady in
love, I dashed down to his house, but to my surprise, I met Frank
playing scrabbles with two of his friends, looking quite healthy. He
told me he just wanted to see my face. I sat down and watched them play
for some minutes, then the door bell rang, and to my utmost
mortification, Jide strolled in. It was at that moment that I knew I was
in deep mess. To cut it short, my virginity was taken in a brutal way. I
was raped by Jide, Frank and their two friends, I was then warned never
to breathe a word to the police about it or they will kill me. I went
back to the hostel and Tosin was the only one who knew about it, she was
my rock and anchor, and she kept apologizing for putting me in the
mess.
We finished school and everyone went their separate ways.
Ever since the incident, I was not interested in men or any
relationship, I kept to myself, focused on my future, I got a Job with a
Telecommunications company and all was well in my world. Then early
last
year, I met this amazing guy, who gave me a reason to love again. Oh he
loves me, and I love him too. Three months ago, he proposed and I
accepted. It was that time that I found out that he is Tosin's very
close cousin,
Since then, Tosin has been threatening to tell him about the rape, that I
should leave his cousin alone. She said if I don't, she will tell my
fiance's family. I was shocked. She was the reason I went through all
that, and she is threatening to take the little happiness I just found
away from me again. I'm confused, I'm angry, I'm sad. I don't want to
lose my man. I accept that I was stupid back then but I've paid dearly
for
it. Should I be deprived of this too? Someone please help
